Being a Family Man While Being a Healthshare Leader
It’s an interesting time we’re living in right now and sheltering in place has introduced me to some…interesting challenges. Of course, there are the obvious challenges – arranging video chats instead of in–person meetings, new travel restrictions, and my emails have probably tripled. However, drawing a line between work and home has been the greatest challenge by far, so much so that my “work” self and my “home” self are starting to intermix.
At work, I encounter challenges all day long, so I have to be on my toes and ready for anything. When I’m at home with my family, though, my mentality is totally different; I’m allowed to be relaxed and vulnerable. Every day, I find myself snapping back and forth between these two polar opposite worlds, which can be exhausting.
It’s tough because, as leaders, we have to put in so much time and effort in order to be effective. Delegating tasks, resolving conflicts, signing off on huge projects—the work is truly never-ending, and some people in my position end up becoming so disengaged from home; I should know, I used to be one of them. In fact, I can be one of those within the next 24 hours if I am not careful. But, at the end of the day, my role as a family man and as God’s child supersedes all of it, so lines have to be drawn. And I found out the hard way, I’m the only one who can draw them.
Balance at home and peace at work – I’d love nothing more than to tell you I’ve completely mastered these things. As I’ve mentioned before, though, I’m a work in progress, and throughout my day I find myself summoning God’s grace and wisdom whenever the pull to keep working becomes too strong. Don’t get me wrong—I love my job. Leading this company and serving my community the way I have these past couple of years has been so rewarding. There is no other job I’d rather have. But there’s a time and place to be a CEO, and then there’s a time and place to be a family man. Recognizing there is a difference has been my saving grace. I am blessed to be surrounded by others who feel the same and inspire me.
I know I may not always be able to step away from work at 5 o’clock—heck, most days, by the time I remember to blink a good three hours has already passed me by! But when my wife and children expect me to be in the moment, to interact and engage with them, that’s when it’s time to turn off my monitors, push away from my work desk, and silence my phone(s).
Work can wait, but my family shouldn’t have to. Let’s encourage each other to pursue this necessary priority.
“If you want to change the world, go home and love your family.”
– Mother Teresa